“are you having a natural birth”

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It’s been a while, hasn’t it?  Love Threads has been BUSY, and I’m about to give birth (19 days).  Which, leads me to writing this post.

During this pregnancy I’ve had numerous strangers and friends ask me a whole slew of questions.  Some could be considered invasive, some seem pretty normal and logical.  The two I get the most, that to me seem pretty personal are, “are you going to breastfeed”, and “are you having a natural birth”.  The first one doesn’t bother me so much, yes I want to say “It’s none of your business”, but at the same time… whatever, I have to pick my battles.  The question that I find the most offensive is asking about what kind of birth I’m going to have.  Really???!!!

I’m all for those women who can pop those babies out el natural, but that’s just not for me, and that’s ok.  I’ve always known that if I had a baby I wanted a c section.  I like the idea of a controlled atmosphere.  It just happens that our baby is breech, and no we are not going to try to turn her.  She’s breech for a reason, I refuse to aggravate her just so she can come out vaginally.  To me THIS is the natural state for us.  Like I said if she is breech, she is breech for a reason.  This baby is a complete miracle for us, why would I tamper with her. Turning your baby isn’t always the safest thing to do either.

The look I get from people when I tell them this is unbelievable.  You would think I’ve just told them something horrific. It completely baffles me that society is like this.  Not only that, but truly this is between me, my husband and baby.  No one else.

NOTHING has bothered me more than this, and yet I have practiced restraint of tongue and pen in almost every situation where this has been the topic.

I’m not trying to come off negative, it’s just people need to think before they speak.  You never know someones situation, and you may never know.  But we are all different, and do different things, and that’s ok.  We are suppose to be a loving society, not a judgmental one.  Although, and I’m not excluding myself, it does make me look at how our society really is. Accepting one for who one is will make us all be a little more loving, I’m pretty sure of that.

 

 

 

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One Response to “are you having a natural birth”

  1. Jan May 5, 2014 at 6:47 pm #

    Good for you, Nik! I am proud of you!

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