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“are you having a natural birth”

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It’s been a while, hasn’t it?  Love Threads has been BUSY, and I’m about to give birth (19 days).  Which, leads me to writing this post.

During this pregnancy I’ve had numerous strangers and friends ask me a whole slew of questions.  Some could be considered invasive, some seem pretty normal and logical.  The two I get the most, that to me seem pretty personal are, “are you going to breastfeed”, and “are you having a natural birth”.  The first one doesn’t bother me so much, yes I want to say “It’s none of your business”, but at the same time… whatever, I have to pick my battles.  The question that I find the most offensive is asking about what kind of birth I’m going to have.  Really???!!!

I’m all for those women who can pop those babies out el natural, but that’s just not for me, and that’s ok.  I’ve always known that if I had a baby I wanted a c section.  I like the idea of a controlled atmosphere.  It just happens that our baby is breech, and no we are not going to try to turn her.  She’s breech for a reason, I refuse to aggravate her just so she can come out vaginally.  To me THIS is the natural state for us.  Like I said if she is breech, she is breech for a reason.  This baby is a complete miracle for us, why would I tamper with her. Turning your baby isn’t always the safest thing to do either.

The look I get from people when I tell them this is unbelievable.  You would think I’ve just told them something horrific. It completely baffles me that society is like this.  Not only that, but truly this is between me, my husband and baby.  No one else.

NOTHING has bothered me more than this, and yet I have practiced restraint of tongue and pen in almost every situation where this has been the topic.

I’m not trying to come off negative, it’s just people need to think before they speak.  You never know someones situation, and you may never know.  But we are all different, and do different things, and that’s ok.  We are suppose to be a loving society, not a judgmental one.  Although, and I’m not excluding myself, it does make me look at how our society really is. Accepting one for who one is will make us all be a little more loving, I’m pretty sure of that.

 

 

 

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a beautiful baby shower

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This past weekend, one of my dear friends gave me a beautiful baby shower. The setting was amazing, the food was delicious and the company was the best! We had a nice mix of people, along with some fabulous cake! Ha! It was an outdoor setting, overlooking the ocean, and the weather was perfect!

Dave and I feel so grateful to have so many loving friends in our life.  Baby J is lucky too!

Thanks to everyone who has done so much for us throughout this time.  As some of you know, this is a true miracle that we are even pregnant.  We feel so blessed.

baby shower^^^One of my dear friends, and our baby doctor^^^

baby shower3^^^The beautiful host^^^

baby shower7^^^The best baby shower mocktail I’ve ever had^^^

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baby shower6^^^I mean…^^^

Thanks again to everyone who joined us on this beautiful day!

 

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balancing life

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Is there ever a real balance? Or is life just a constant catch up?  I don’t know, I’d like to think I could find a balance.  I have so many projects going on right now, my head is going in fifty different directions, and, oh yeah, there will be a baby here in no time.  The baby is my (our) first priority, then what???!

I’ve always been a pretty organized (OCD) type of person, so this latest “scatter-brain” thing is throwing me off.  I’m trying hard to stay organized, but the more organized I try to stay, the more disorganized I get.  I don’t know how some of you people do it, I commend you.  Big time! Especially the mamas who make, create, and sell homemade things.  Do you stay up until midnight? Probably.

I’m trying to find a balance.  I’m happiest in life when things are more mellow, as opposed to chaotic.  I used to be the complete opposite.  The more rushed the better.  Not so much anymore.  But, with all of my “things” going on mellow isn’t exactly the word that is happening right now.

One of the reasons I loved being back home a couple weeks ago was the relaxation part.  I have a good friend who I just love being around because of her energy.  She probably has ninety things a day going on, yet she is always calm, and never seems to be rushing.  She gets pulled in fifty different directions, and still remains completely balanced.  I’ve asked her before, how she does it.  Her answer was simple.  “I have to stay calm for myself and others around me.”  Of course my type A personality wondered “hmmm, if only it was that easy”.  But, I honestly believe it’s all practice.

So, here I am, starting my practice. The practice of patience, tolerance, and slowing down.  It has to be more healthy, right?!  I’m not a runner, I’m not a gym person, but I enjoy eating healthy, and practicing holistic rituals.  Oh yeah, and all of you avid runners, good for you, I bet that helps with mega stress, but never going to be there, and never going to try. Sorry.  I only wish.

Cheers to finding a balance in life! God-willing it happens.  Soon. Ha!

Oh, and here is an interview with Sarah Jessica Parker.  I love her.  She nails it, and so flawlessly.  I mean…

 

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Baby shower

Hello!

It’s been a while.  I’ve been getting in some last minute travel, and other last minute things.  Love Threads has also been very busy, which means I’m very busy.  Oh, yay, then I have that full-time job too.

Last week I traveled home for a baby shower, given to me by three of my good friends.  It was wonderful. I had a great time! It was nice to see faces I haven’t seen in a while. I wish I would have captured more photos from the shower, but I was having  such a good time to even think about it too much.  Although, I did grab a few.

Thanks again, Omaha for another great time.  Even though you were pretty darn cold, you’re still my home.

Hope everyone has a great week!

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bbs3^^^I wasn’t lying when I said it was cold.  But I was happy to see some snow.^^^

bbs2^^^Little plants for the guests to take home.  such a great idea, Deniz^^^

bbs1^^^One of the areas set up for guests. Everything was perfection.^^^

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going home

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The time has come and I am going home.  Yay! Even though it’s going to be a high of 10 degrees, I don’t even care.  I’m excited to see friends and family, and just relax.  This last week has been a doozy! I had some unfortunate things to deal with.  People wanting to be complicated, and blah blah blah.  Some people just have a hard time being happy for others. I’ve never understood that, I’m just not one of those people.  Like my mom says, you have to feel bad for them, they’re sick.  You have to pray for them.  True, I guess.

I have so many exciting things for the future to look forward to.  Wish I could share them all, but not quite yet.  I will though.  Sorry I have been so relaxed on the blog, I’ve been working hard on Love Threads, and a few other things.

Today we get to go and have a sneak peek at baby girl, and say hi.  She is a kicker! This little angel has brought so much joy into our lives already, and she isn’t even here yet.  It’s really pretty amazing.

Hope everyone has a great rest of the week, and I will be back on Friday with some weekend links.

xo

(picture is of Omaha, my hometown)

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beach day

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We decided to take advantage of this gorgeous weather we are having.  I almost hate to say this, but it has been in the upper 70’s and low 80’s around here lately.  Can’t complain.  This is definitely what we pay for, and I tell you, we PAY for it!  The husband and I rarely have a full day together, so when we do it is definitely a treat.  We packed up the grill (best investment ever), which I’ve talked about here and here, grabbed some burgers,  and headed down to check out the surf.  It was PERFECT!

It’s days like these that I never want to move from Santa Barbara.  Everything seems just fine the way it is.

beachbbq^^^It really is the perfect, portable grill.^^^

beachbbq2^^^My latest craving.^^^

beachbbq1^^^Snacks and buns.^^^

beachbbq4^^^The husband shot this.  I’m over half way there.  Yay!!!^^^

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Loving others

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I can let something build up in me and make it tens times worse than it needs to be, or I can meditate and let the universe take it.  This past weekend my husband and I had a conversation about some family members and why they choose to do the things they do.  We were talking about how we were hurt by certain actions.  After a long discussion, we both looked at each other and said, “really, it’s none of our business”.  It’s true, it’s not.  Yes, we feel affected, but at the same time we have to accept these people, who we do love, for who they are.  It’s hard! I’m not going to lie.  My husband is more calm about such things. I want to call the person and have an out right discussion of the behavior taking place. ha!

My point of this post,  is that we don’t have to like peoples actions, but we should try to love everyone.  It will only make us better people.  If you are honest in your own every day life, things will proceed the RIGHT way.  I’m a firm believer in karma.  You get what you choose.  I’ll end with this… Always be a giver, not just a taker.  It’s better for the soul.

Cheers to Monday!

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an honest post about pre-motherhood

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I’m not the type of woman who has always wanted children.  I had a business for years, and that was my child.  I was happy, and plenty busy with that.  I’ve never been the type of person that felt like a child would complete my life, I was happy with me and what I already had.  I’ve never been the type to dwell about motherhood or have the feeling that “I was put on this earth to be a mom”, I was happy just living.

I had watched other moms dote on their children, and completely forget about their husband.  I had watched other moms try to form their small child into what “they” wanted, instead of letting the child develop into themselves.  I had watched other moms stress out about what their child ate, drank, wore, and on and on and on… Quite frankly, it turned me off from motherhood.  It was everything I DIDN’T want to do!

Then…then I met my husband who happened to be a bit older than me, 9 years to be exact.  I was reaching 32, and still wasn’t sure what I wanted.  I had sold my business, and felt like I needed to get to know myself again, like truly get to know myself.  But, I liked this guy, he seemed solid, mature, and stable.  So I went for it, slowly.  Taking things slow was something new for me, by the way.

Fast forward, I’m 36, he is 45 and we are having our first baby.  Scared? Sure.  Excited? Yes! Doubtful? No.  Ready? Ready as we will ever be.

I’m currently 4 months away from having our first child.  Some days it seems not real.  It wasn’t easy for us to conceive our baby, it took time, work and energy. But, damn it, we did it, and I couldn’t be more proud of both of us.

I’m excited to become a mom, something I never thought I would say.  I’m also nervous, but I know deep down I will be the best mom I can possibly be.  I also know that I want my child to be the person “they” want to be, even though I’m sure it’s just instinctual to want to show them, teach them, and even boss them.  I also know my husband will come first, and our child we will raise together.

I never knew you could feel so much love for something that is not even here yet, but it’s true, you can!  I also never knew that some people have to work harder than others to get something they never even knew they wanted, but I know now.

I also know that all of my selfish tactics, and endless babble about nothing, will need to disappear, and my focus will be on my husband and our small child.  I couldn’t be happier that I waited 36 years to find the right partner to conceive this child with.

Dave, I know that we will be the best parents we can possibly be, and that no one or nothing will take that joy from us. We made a pac 3 years ago of our goals in life and we have already accomplished so many in such a short amount of time. When baby J gets here, there will be 3 of us, to continue on the journey we have ahead of us.

Baby J, mommy and daddy love you unconditionally, and we are waiting patiently to meet you.

xo

 

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monday

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I love this! This to me says you can’t just sit around, you have to hustle, if you want to be successful.  My husband and I are both hustlers.  We never sit still, which is why one of my words for 2014 (meditation), is so challenging for me. Although, I did it this weekend and it felt wonderful.  Now, back to Monday and time to hustle!

Cheers to a fab week!

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word(s) for 2014

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I love the ending of a year, and the beginning of a new one.  It really makes me pause and reflect on what happened the previous year, and my goals for the coming year.  This year I’m picking a word, or in this case words…  Gratitude and meditation.  Two things that I easily let slip away when life starts to get busy.  If I stay in gratitude, I don’t have any expectations for anything or anyone.  I’m more kind, appreciative, and balanced.  I live one day at a time, and appreciate just breathing.  Meditation, this is something that has taken me years to learn.  Some days it’s guided, others it’s silent. It has never been easy for me, but when I do it, I feel at peace.  It slows me down, and lets me appreciate just being. It keeps my airways fresh, and allows my heart to love more and to be a kinder person.

I’m going to become a mommy this year, and I couldn’t be more excited. Although, I have been warned(not really warned, but talked to), by some very good, honest friends, who are mamma’s, that preparing myself is the most important thing I can do.  I don’t mean by buying all of the necessities, or whatever else, I mean meditating and preparing myself for a life change.  No more me, no more sleep, and no more schedule.  Making sure I’m in a good spot when our little angel arrives.  I’m not sure you can ever be too ready, but having such honest talks, have helped me be prepared.

This past year was a doozy, to say the least.  we went through some major life situations, lost a good friend, and felt a bit of sadness, but overall, God brought us out on top, and we couldn’t be better.  Funny how that works!

So, here is to 2014 and knowing it will bring lots of great changes!

Peace~

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