Archive | Life

sadness

blog5 new

I know the title of this post probably isn’t one that you want to jump on reading, but sometimes in the blogging world I feel like its good to read an honest, raw post.  The other day my parents called me to ask about a girl from my hometown.  She had died, she was 34, and the mother of 3 children.  She had committed suicide.  Supposedly there were no signs of her sadness, but to be honest I have no idea, nor is it any of my business. It just happened to make me stop and really think how precious this life is that we are living in.  It also made me so sad that she was so sad, and felt that lonely.

That’s our society though, and that infuriates me more than anything.  Push it under the rug, and ignore it. We live by, “there is always something or someone far worse”.  But, is there really? If you’ve never dealt with anxiety or depression, count your lucky stars.  The shit is no joke! And something that shouldn’t be hidden, but very often is. Families are ashamed or embarrassed, or sometimes even call it a selfish act(suicide).  But, in reality it needs to be spoken about to raise awareness.

I remember having a miscarriage (another push under the rug thing), I was so sad and didn’t know what or who to turn to, and thank god, found someone who I didn’t even know, via the internet.  She helped me immensely.  I’ve had a small case of anxiety my whole life, nothing tragic, but could have easily gotten there. I’ve always tried to self soothe, which is what I think we all do to some degree. ie. drinking, drugging, shopping, eating, exercising, etc…

After having my daughter, I felt really good. Then around 6 months, I would fall in and out of anxiety. feelings I couldn’t help. (postpartum, another very serious issue) I have a great life, a great husband, I live where most people would dream to live, everything is great! But, these were feelings I couldn’t explain.  Even today I still fight with those demons. My head can be a dangerous place. But, today I have people I can reach out to. I have friends who I trust and tell everything to, even when I am feeling sad or full of anxiety.  I’m not embarrassed to talk about it, or ashamed, or too good, or even too proud. Today, even on my saddest days (which are definitely more rare), I know everything will be ok.

I could go on and on about this topic. How social media affects people, holding grudges against people for years, especially when you have no idea what they are going through, judging and not knowing, family pressures, being better than, etc…

Whatever happened to being just a decent human being and loving someone for exactly who and how they are. We ALL have character defects, but essentially we are all one.  Maybe reach your arm out to that one person you normally wouldn’t. Because you never know who may need you when you least expect it, and you may never know when there won’t be a tomorrow for them. Life is so precious.

blog6 new

 

2 comments



Filed under: Life

ONE!

sayulita7

Happy birthday, to our sweet Eleanor! You have taught us so much in this last year.  You have taught us how to love and nourish, and not to want and need. You have taught us how to live life to the fullest. We feel so, so blessed to have you as our own. We love you, baby girl.

Here’s to many more!

xo

xmas14xmas12

0 comments



Filed under: Children, Family, Life

letting go of the past

sunrise2

I think we all have the ability to hang on to old things or habits, whether we want to admit it or not.   I know I do.  Lately, I’ve really been trying to clear away all negative energies from my body.  I feel like I have done a pretty good job with this, since I started the process 5 years ago, but there is always a little “shaping up” that can be done.  Along the way I’ve made some amends, did a little process called “cleaning house”, and multiple other things.  Today, I feel good, but I also think I could feel even better.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m super grateful for where I am today.

I’m a new mom, with a fairly new marriage (going on 4 years), and another new business, in a fairly new city.  We have the typical family issues here and there, you know?! (insert comedy here) All in all, life is completely fair.

So, I’ve decided to revisit certain inside issues, and really do a bit of self-care and self-love.  We are all amazing individuals, who really deserve to be on this planet, but so often we get lost in “things”, and forget about the simple pleasures like individualism, nature, self care, and so on…or just about being kind to others, even though you’re having a bad day, you just never know what that other person is going through.  For me, learning to pause and to be more patient, to be more present, and to listen.  I recently started reading this book, it’s about letting go, and finding your true intentions. Not forgetting about YOU. Which, I think we all do.

So, here is to the new you, and not being afraid of letting go! We are a lot of work, us humans, but we were put on this precious earth to be kind and loving, and to help others, and to all be ONE. Be grateful! Be kind! Love one another.

Below are a few websites that I have found to be completely uplifting, and really good reads for the mind, body and soul.

ashleyneese.com

thelocalrose.com

freeandnative.com

Enjoy!!

 

 

 

 

 

0 comments



Filed under: Health, Life

What to do when it’s HOT!!!

pop1I mean, really, it’s been 100 degrees here, and I can’t take it another day.  I remember this happened last year while I was pregnant, and now again. I’m so sorry if you’re pregnant and you live in Santa Barbara.  We have been getting creative with ways to stay cool (well, not that creative, but whatever). The old washcloth in the freezer, ice packs on the body, and today, we made popsicles.

This is seriously the easiest and actually a fairly healthy treat to make for you and your littles.  We used watermelon, because that’s what we had.  I still have a major addiction to watermelon, it all started while I was pregnant.  Here is the super simple recipe…

Makes 6 popsicles:

slice a half of a watermelon into large chunks and put it into the blender

a splash or two of filtered water

a drop or two of stevia liquid

blend it all together and poor into molds. We use these, and love them!

Enjoy!

pop2

 

0 comments



Filed under: Food, Life, Local

She’s growing and so are we…

baby 028

Hi!

It’s been a long while since I’ve been to this little corner of mine.  Life is in full session.  Eleanor is getting bigger by the day, and Love Threads is growing by the week.  I made a joke the other day that I needed to hire help for Eleanor and for the store.  But, anyone who knows me well, knows I get a complete adrenaline rush off of being a busy body.  I’ve been trying to snap a few photos here and there of my little angel, as the days go by.  I love having this little blog of mine, but it isn’t going to be able to have as much attention as it used to get.  Maybe again down the road, but I will definitely pop in whenever I have a second and post about something.  Ultimately, I’d love to possibly find some guests editors to fill in here and there. (hint, hint)

So, there’s that.  Now, here are some pictures of my most prized possession, and I’m sure you’ll see why I’ve been a bit absent.

xo

baby love6^^^cheating with tummy time a bit^^^

baby love^^^she really is our little miracle^^^

baby love3^^^Eleanor loves to purse her lips.  it’s pretty darn cute^^^

baby love2^^^she also loves that tongue of hers^^^

baby love4

baby love8^^^First day to the beach. picture isn’t great, but couldn’t pass up this one with her darling swimsuit on^^^

 

 

0 comments



Filed under: Family, Life

The new normal

ellie1

It’s been quiet around here.  Life has completely changed, and we are trying to get a good schedule down.  Any free time I have, I’ve been working on Love Threads.  The store has been very busy, and little miss Eleanor keeps us quite busy too. All good stuff, but really just trying to find the “new normal” around here.

First and foremost, the sleep schedule.  We are sleep training and it has gotten a lot better.  Some nights better than others. Eleanor is only a month old, so we don’t expect a lot out of her, obviously. Ha!  Next up, trying to figure out how many hours a day I’m carving out for Love Threads.  Mornings work best for us.  We all function really well in the morning, and Eleanor usually takes a couple hour nap.  So basically all orders are filled in the morning, and my buying usually takes place in the late afternoon, when she is napping again.  Lastly, just getting an overall day schedule down. We are really organized people.  We have always had a schedule and pretty much stuck with it.  Obviously, we know having a newborn it isn’t always easy.  Although, we know we can try our best.  For us this is what works, others can fly by the seat of their pants, and that works for them.

Overall, life is good and finding this new normal has been a great life lesson, especially to slow down.  The biggest lesson we have received is not being selfish, one bit!  I’m glad I waited 36 years to have my first child.  I’m not sure I would have been ready before now, to be honest.  I commend you twenty something mamas, it’s not a small feat.  This is definitely the biggest accomplishment my husband and I have had in life.  It’s also the most amazing thing that has happened to both of us.  I’m so so happy we have been blessed with this opportunity.

We love you more than all the stars in the sky, Eleanor.

ellie2^^^Picking up Eleanor’s birth certificate^^^

ellie3^^^Our first walk to the Santa Barbara rose garden^^^

0 comments



Filed under: Family, Home, Life

“are you having a natural birth”

parenthood

It’s been a while, hasn’t it?  Love Threads has been BUSY, and I’m about to give birth (19 days).  Which, leads me to writing this post.

During this pregnancy I’ve had numerous strangers and friends ask me a whole slew of questions.  Some could be considered invasive, some seem pretty normal and logical.  The two I get the most, that to me seem pretty personal are, “are you going to breastfeed”, and “are you having a natural birth”.  The first one doesn’t bother me so much, yes I want to say “It’s none of your business”, but at the same time… whatever, I have to pick my battles.  The question that I find the most offensive is asking about what kind of birth I’m going to have.  Really???!!!

I’m all for those women who can pop those babies out el natural, but that’s just not for me, and that’s ok.  I’ve always known that if I had a baby I wanted a c section.  I like the idea of a controlled atmosphere.  It just happens that our baby is breech, and no we are not going to try to turn her.  She’s breech for a reason, I refuse to aggravate her just so she can come out vaginally.  To me THIS is the natural state for us.  Like I said if she is breech, she is breech for a reason.  This baby is a complete miracle for us, why would I tamper with her. Turning your baby isn’t always the safest thing to do either.

The look I get from people when I tell them this is unbelievable.  You would think I’ve just told them something horrific. It completely baffles me that society is like this.  Not only that, but truly this is between me, my husband and baby.  No one else.

NOTHING has bothered me more than this, and yet I have practiced restraint of tongue and pen in almost every situation where this has been the topic.

I’m not trying to come off negative, it’s just people need to think before they speak.  You never know someones situation, and you may never know.  But we are all different, and do different things, and that’s ok.  We are suppose to be a loving society, not a judgmental one.  Although, and I’m not excluding myself, it does make me look at how our society really is. Accepting one for who one is will make us all be a little more loving, I’m pretty sure of that.

 

 

 

1 comments



Filed under: Children, Family, Life

a beautiful baby shower

baby shower5

This past weekend, one of my dear friends gave me a beautiful baby shower. The setting was amazing, the food was delicious and the company was the best! We had a nice mix of people, along with some fabulous cake! Ha! It was an outdoor setting, overlooking the ocean, and the weather was perfect!

Dave and I feel so grateful to have so many loving friends in our life.  Baby J is lucky too!

Thanks to everyone who has done so much for us throughout this time.  As some of you know, this is a true miracle that we are even pregnant.  We feel so blessed.

baby shower^^^One of my dear friends, and our baby doctor^^^

baby shower3^^^The beautiful host^^^

baby shower7^^^The best baby shower mocktail I’ve ever had^^^

baby shower2

baby shower6^^^I mean…^^^

Thanks again to everyone who joined us on this beautiful day!

 

0 comments



Filed under: Food, Friends, Life

balancing life

life

Is there ever a real balance? Or is life just a constant catch up?  I don’t know, I’d like to think I could find a balance.  I have so many projects going on right now, my head is going in fifty different directions, and, oh yeah, there will be a baby here in no time.  The baby is my (our) first priority, then what???!

I’ve always been a pretty organized (OCD) type of person, so this latest “scatter-brain” thing is throwing me off.  I’m trying hard to stay organized, but the more organized I try to stay, the more disorganized I get.  I don’t know how some of you people do it, I commend you.  Big time! Especially the mamas who make, create, and sell homemade things.  Do you stay up until midnight? Probably.

I’m trying to find a balance.  I’m happiest in life when things are more mellow, as opposed to chaotic.  I used to be the complete opposite.  The more rushed the better.  Not so much anymore.  But, with all of my “things” going on mellow isn’t exactly the word that is happening right now.

One of the reasons I loved being back home a couple weeks ago was the relaxation part.  I have a good friend who I just love being around because of her energy.  She probably has ninety things a day going on, yet she is always calm, and never seems to be rushing.  She gets pulled in fifty different directions, and still remains completely balanced.  I’ve asked her before, how she does it.  Her answer was simple.  “I have to stay calm for myself and others around me.”  Of course my type A personality wondered “hmmm, if only it was that easy”.  But, I honestly believe it’s all practice.

So, here I am, starting my practice. The practice of patience, tolerance, and slowing down.  It has to be more healthy, right?!  I’m not a runner, I’m not a gym person, but I enjoy eating healthy, and practicing holistic rituals.  Oh yeah, and all of you avid runners, good for you, I bet that helps with mega stress, but never going to be there, and never going to try. Sorry.  I only wish.

Cheers to finding a balance in life! God-willing it happens.  Soon. Ha!

Oh, and here is an interview with Sarah Jessica Parker.  I love her.  She nails it, and so flawlessly.  I mean…

 

0 comments



Filed under: Friends, Life

Baby shower

Hello!

It’s been a while.  I’ve been getting in some last minute travel, and other last minute things.  Love Threads has also been very busy, which means I’m very busy.  Oh, yay, then I have that full-time job too.

Last week I traveled home for a baby shower, given to me by three of my good friends.  It was wonderful. I had a great time! It was nice to see faces I haven’t seen in a while. I wish I would have captured more photos from the shower, but I was having  such a good time to even think about it too much.  Although, I did grab a few.

Thanks again, Omaha for another great time.  Even though you were pretty darn cold, you’re still my home.

Hope everyone has a great week!

bbs2

bbs3

bbs3^^^I wasn’t lying when I said it was cold.  But I was happy to see some snow.^^^

bbs2^^^Little plants for the guests to take home.  such a great idea, Deniz^^^

bbs1^^^One of the areas set up for guests. Everything was perfection.^^^

bbs1

bbs

 

1 comments



Filed under: Friends, Life